Expectations vs. Reality: Dismantling The Trap* by Kinga Lewandowska
*[Abridged text]
Expectations live in everything we do and everyone we meet, in our conscious and subconscious mind, in the atmosphere of places, interactions, and circumstances. They might bring good energy, serve as motivation, or a sign of ambition. After all, we need to expect from ourselves a bit more every time we want to achieve new goals.
Yet, more often than not, expectations are sticky, problematic, and act more like a trap than a push forward.
To break free from the cage we first need to understand its structure. The ironclad bars are sturdy and bent in different directions because each has been installed by someone or something over years and years of conditioning and pressure. We can place these bars in three categories:
Others’ expectations of us.
Our expectations of others.
Our expectations of ourselves.
We form them based on our knowledge of the world, our experiences at school, at home, or at work. We observe our friends, family, and acquaintances, and we build a net of our own hopes around other people. Various cultural traditions deserve a mention as well. Then we add a dimension of the mass media (social media leading the way), advertising, reviews, and online opinions. Enter the burden of comparison. We are bombarded with expectations from every possible ∠, even from within.
Fonte:https://www.intelligentchange.com/blogs/read/expe ctations-vs-reality
O texto de Kinga Lewandowska disserta sobre como as expectativas são formadas em nossas vidas, ao mesmo tempo que explica como podem ser como armadilhas que não nos permitem progredir. Nossas expectativas são formadas a partir dos nossos conhecimentos, das nossas experiências escolares, familiares e laborais. Contudo, há uma outra dimensão que Lewandowska adiciona, capaz de intensificar as expectativas que criamos.
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