Why French Parents Are Superior (in One Way)
By Karen Le Billon
[1] Consider this: Our children are three times more likely to be overweight than French
children. In fact, we lead the world in producing overweight children, but the French
have one of the lowest rates of overweight children in the developed world.
The causes of obesity are complex, but what we eat is undoubtedly a factor. Because of
[5] poor eating habits, the current generation of American children will suffer far more
health problems — and perhaps have a shorter life expectancy — than their parents. We
may be teaching our kids to eat themselves into an early grave.
The reason lies in how we teach our kids to eat. I say this from personal experience:
together with our two daughters we’ve divided our time between France and North
[10] America for the better part of two decades. Our daughters have been in school and
daycare — and I’ve taught in universities — in both places. So I’ve seen French
children in action from cradle to college.
French parents teach their children to eat like we teach our kids to read: with love,
patience and firm persistence they expose their children to a wide variety of tastes,
[15] flavors and textures that are the building blocks of a varied, healthy diet. Pediatricianrecommended
first foods for French babies are leek soup, endive, spinach and beets (not
bland rice cereal — have you ever tasted that stuff?). They teach their children that
“good for you foods” taste good (broccoli – yum!), whereas we often do the opposite.
The result is a nation of healthy eaters: 6 million French children sit down every day
[20] to school lunches featuring dishes like cauliflower casserole, baked endive, beet salad
and broccoli. Vending machines and fast food are banned, and flavored milk is not an
option. To introduce kids to a wide variety of foods, no dish can be repeated more than
once per month. Food for thought.
French children are also trained to think about how to eat. The French won’t ask a child,
[25] for example, “Are you full,” but rather “Are you still hungry” — a very different
feeling. This is one example of French Food Rules (as I call them): codified common
sense based in a rich food culture, backed up by a century of science.
Another example: French kids snack only once a day. France’s official food guide
emphatically recommends no snacking, and TV snack food ads carry a banner (much
[30] like cigarettes) warning that snacking between meals is bad for your health. Snacking,
the French feel, creates unregulated eating habits that are difficult to change later in life.
Given that our increased calorie consumption over the past 20 years has come largely
from snacking, they may have a point.
Just in case you were wondering, diets for French children are relatively rare; few of
[35] them need it. Nor are they deprived of treats: “food is fun” is the Golden Rule of French
eating. Moderation, not deprivation — along with viewing food as a source of
pleasure, a fun family adventure — is the core of French food culture. The French
worry less about nutrients and calories, and instead concentrate on teaching their
children to love food; c’est normal!, given that food is one of life’s great shared
[40] pleasures.
We saw the results in our own family during the year we lived in France. Our children
went from being absurdly picky eaters to loving many vegetables, from beets and
broccoli to creamed spinach. They, in turn, inspired me to change the way I ate. When
we’re not living in France, we continue (and adapt) the French approach to eating. This
[45] doesn’t mean we need to eat French food. Rather, we’ve learned some useful life
lessons about how and why to eat.
So we don’t need to parent like the French. But we should be asking ourselves what
we could learn from them about children and food. It’s a conversation worth having,
because a lot is at stake.
Karen Le Billon is the author of French Children Eat Everything. April 13, 2012, 10:22 AM
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