“I Love You, But...”
“Honey, I Love You BUT...”
is NOT a declaration of love.
Joy Stevens
Declaration of love, manipulation, power play,
or verbal abuse?
What is it?
It is so sweet and tender to begin a sentence with this
No!
It is actually a strategy for power and control by guilt. The “Ilove-
you-but... person” uses negativity for leverage.
[...]
declaration of love. After all, it can be said with a smile on the face and innocent patience
∈ the voice.
But is it tender and loving?
It can also be quite psychologically damaging, then, to be ∈a relationship with this person. Your partner is constantly belittling you while hiding behind a guise of love.
You are being manipulated ∈a power play. You are probably confused and often feeling guilty. You are being verbally abused!
Disponível em: <http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/but.htm>. Acesso em: 13 set. 2010. [Excerto]
Vocabulário
leverage: poder
belittling: depreciando, deprimindo
guise: aparência
Declaration of love, manipulation, power play,
or verbal abuse?
What is it?
It is so sweet and tender to begin a sentence with this
No!
It is actually a strategy for power and control by guilt. The “Ilove-
you-but... person” uses negativity for leverage.
[...]
declaration of love. After all, it can be said with a smile on the face and innocent patience
∈ the voice.
But is it tender and loving?
It can also be quite psychologically damaging, then, to be ∈a relationship with this person. Your partner is constantly belittling you while hiding behind a guise of love.
You are being manipulated ∈a power play. You are probably confused and often feeling guilty. You are being verbally abused!
Disponível em: <http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/but.htm>. Acesso em: 13 set. 2010. [Excerto]
Vocabulário
leverage: poder
belittling: depreciando, deprimindo
guise: aparência
It is so sweet and tender to begin a sentence with this
No!
It is actually a strategy for power and control by guilt. The “Ilove-
you-but... person” uses negativity for leverage.
[...]
declaration of love. After all, it can be said with a smile on the face and innocent patience
∈ the voice.
But is it tender and loving?
It can also be quite psychologically damaging, then, to be ∈a relationship with this person. Your partner is constantly belittling you while hiding behind a guise of love.
You are being manipulated ∈a power play. You are probably confused and often feeling guilty. You are being verbally abused!
Disponível em: <http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/but.htm>. Acesso em: 13 set. 2010. [Excerto]
Vocabulário
leverage: poder
belittling: depreciando, deprimindo
guise: aparência
It is so sweet and tender to begin a sentence with this
No!
It is actually a strategy for power and control by guilt. The “Ilove-
you-but... person” uses negativity for leverage.
[...]
declaration of love. After all, it can be said with a smile on the face and innocent patience
∈ the voice.
It can also be quite psychologically damaging, then, to be ∈a relationship with this person. Your partner is constantly belittling you while hiding behind a guise of love.
You are being manipulated ∈a power play. You are probably confused and often feeling guilty. You are being verbally abused!
Disponível em: <http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/but.htm>. Acesso em: 13 set. 2010. [Excerto]
Vocabulário
leverage: poder
belittling: depreciando, deprimindo
guise: aparência
You are being manipulated ∈a power play. You are probably confused and often feeling guilty. You are being verbally abused!
Disponível em: <http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/but.htm>. Acesso em: 13 set. 2010. [Excerto]
Vocabulário
leverage: poder
belittling: depreciando, deprimindo
guise: aparência
Vocabulário
leverage: poder
belittling: depreciando, deprimindo
guise: aparência
In the first paragraph the author supports the idea that the declaration “I love you, but...” is manipulative because it can be said with
