Expectations vs. Reality: Dismantling The Trap* by Kinga Lewandowska
*[Abridged text]
Expectations live in everything we do and everyone we meet, in our conscious and subconscious mind, in the atmosphere of places, interactions, and circumstances. They might bring good energy, serve as motivation, or a sign of ambition. After all, we need to expect from ourselves a bit more every time we want to achieve new goals.
Yet, more often than not, expectations are sticky, problematic, and act more like a trap than a push forward.
To break free from the cage we first need to understand its structure. The ironclad bars are sturdy and bent in different directions because each has been installed by someone or something over years and years of conditioning and pressure. We can place these bars in three categories:
Others’ expectations of us.
Our expectations of others.
Our expectations of ourselves.
We form them based on our knowledge of the world, our experiences at school, at home, or at work. We observe our friends, family, and acquaintances, and we build a net of our own hopes around other people. Various cultural traditions deserve a mention as well. Then we add a dimension of the mass media (social media leading the way), advertising, reviews, and online opinions. Enter the burden of comparison. We are bombarded with expectations from every possible ∠, even from within.
Fonte:https://www.intelligentchange.com/blogs/read/expe ctations-vs-reality
O tema da expectativa é explorado em diversas esferas da atividade humana: filosofia, economia, sociologia, linguística, biologia e afins. É, também, usado como tema para músicas de diversos gêneros, principalmente na música pop. A cantora estadunidense, Beyoncé, em 2008, lança o álbum I am... Sasha Fierce. Em uma das músicas, a cantora diz:
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted Cause he's
taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
Na língua inglesa, dispomos de estruturas gramaticais de tempo verbal para expressar expectativas, tanto aquelas que foram alcançadas quanto as que não foram. Sobre este uso, analise as proposições a seguir.
A oração em negrito está no modo subjuntivo.
PORQUE
Existe a presença de um verbo no presente na oração em negrito.
